Women over the age of 60 or so often want to talk about the interesting trajectory of women's sexual desire as we approach perimenopause, the approximately 18 month period directly before and immediately after one's "period" actually disappears for good. They also have concerns about sex beyond that time frame as we move through the process into the latest stages of life. Their commentary and questions sometimes revolve around society's stereotypical assumption that the older women get, the less sexual desire we can expect to experience and enjoy.
However, the reality for lots of older women isn't nearly as intuitive as all that. For example, many women have found that after an initial - sometimes dramatic - decrease in sex drive during their 50s and 60s, their levels of desire actually surged to new, exhilarating heights when they reached their 70s and even their 80s.
While any number of reasons can be theorized for why this unexpected rise takes place, and why for some women, it might take decades to occur, many women find that it helps to track the changes in their levels of desire over time. Keeping a journal or diary of changes can be helpful, they argue, since journaling can help identify whether or not subtle shifts and changes may be linked to other factors.
Are you surprised to hear about this happy phenomenon? Does it reflect your lived experience or that of an older woman you know?
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