“You have a G-spot.
Every woman does. It is not a Holy Grail,
a hidden treasure, or one of the lost
tribes of Israel .”
~ Rachel Venning
If I had a dollar for every time the discussion turns to
questions about G-spots and female ejaculation, I might be well on my way to a pleasingly
rotund retirement nest egg by now.
Still, it’s always nice to have the opportunity to re-emphasize
the importance of getting to know one’s body on one’s own terms. And as
everyone knows, that’s what God made hand mirrors for, right? Although the
truth is, while every woman should treat herself to an occasional exploratory
tour with a hand mirror, searching for one’s G-spot doesn’t require a mirror at
all, just one or two dexterous fingers on one hand.
While the clitoris, with its more than eight thousand nerve
endings, is a woman’s primary, most exquisite sex organ hands down (and no pun
intended here) much has been said, sung and written of late concerning the
mysterious G-spot, yours, mine and ours. So what is it? Where does it hang out?
What does it do?
Credited with enabling some women to ejaculate, or achieve orgasm
by vaginal penetration alone, the G-spot is a cluster of around 32 tiny
prostate-like glands located inside a tube of spongy tissue surrounding the
urethra. It’s located inside and to the front of the vagina, just above the
vaginal ceiling.
And indeed, you can find your own G-spot by simply inserting
your middle finger up into your vagina and then curving your finger back
towards your palm as if you were trying to touch the inside of your navel.
Don’t reach too far up though, since the G-spot is usually fairly close to the
vaginal entry. Once you’re in there and comfortable, feel around and explore. The
G-spot feels a bit like a spongy bump, different from the surrounding tissue, and
just like every other part of our anatomy, G-spots vary in size from one woman
to the next.
The most common form of G-spot stimulation uses a partner’s
fingers or a sex toy pressing firmly up into the vaginal ceiling with firm,
quick movements. Some men can stimulate a partner’s G-spot with the head of the
penis as well, but it often takes a bit of skill, guidance and practice for
most men to arrive at an effective technique. And you guessed it: many women,
though certainly not all, find stimulation of the G-spot extremely pleasurable.
For those history buffs among us, the term G-spot was first
used around 1981, in honor of the male German gynecologist, Ernst Gräfenberg, who
first theorized its existence around 1944. However, in 2001, the Federative
International Committee on Anatomical Terminology decided on the designation
female prostate or prostata feminina, for use in its new publications.
And about that ejaculate, or in other words, the liquid
that’s ejected during what some folks call “squirting.” Here’s the thing. Stimulation
of the G-spot can, and often does, produce varying amounts of a liquid female
ejaculate that can feel like urine when it’s being released. Understandably,
women are frequently confused about this and mistakenly believe they’ve peed
the bed, or worse for some, on their partners. Oh, the embarrassment, the shame-faced
humiliation, right?
But take heart and relax! It’s definitely not pee. Research
has proven that its chemical make-up is completely distinct from that of urine.
Whereas most recent studies have found a substance called PSA or prostate specific antigen in female
ejaculate, PSA is not found in either male or female urine. Rather, scientists believe
the liquid that makes up female ejaculate may be produced by the Skene’s
Glands, although the exact origin of the often copious amounts of fluid is not
yet known.
Not all women reach orgasm from G-spot, or prostata feminina stimulation, however,
and not all women enjoy it. Equally important, not all women ejaculate from it,
and unfortunately, with the recent - and misguided - public furor suggesting
that the production of G-spot ejaculate is some sort of hallmark of 21st
century female sexual fulfillment, many women have placed unnecessary
importance on this aspect of sexual experience. So much so that some women are
seeking to have their G-spots surgically enlarged in the old, erroneous belief
that bigger is always better.
Still, regardless of its size, all evidence
points to the fact that your G-spot is definitely up there, tucked away from
prying eyes, in all its spongy glory. Do with it what you will. Or not… it’s
totally up to you!