In all my grown-up years on the planet, I’ve met precious
few adults in my orbit who haven’t been grateful when they’ve had steady,
fulfilling well-paying jobs. Right-wing conservative bloviating notwithstanding, most people I’ve met - and
most whom I haven’t, I suspect - would
rather earn a steady paycheck by their own sweat, talents and capabilities than
subsist on the social safety nets put in place by agencies and governments admirably
concerned about averting people’s personal disasters.
Moreover, here in the US as in numerous other places
around the globe, there’s a long-standing belief that one’s ability to earn a
living ought not to be limited by anything other than an individual’s talent,
creativity, business acumen and personal grit so long as other people and
society at large are unhurt by one’s money-making endeavors. In fact, the
durable spine of any capitalist economy is pretty much dependent upon this
notion of a vibrant, flexible, creative free market powered by individuals’
willingness to work hard and play by a normative set of rules.
That said, when it comes to sex work and the people who
engage in it, the flinty fist of a yet-puritanical culture pretty much
continues to stigmatize the sort of flexible free-market minded pragmatism that
can be characteristic of sex workers.
And the truth is this: Sex positive feminist that I am, I’m wholly
unwilling to demonize and or condemn the entire broad category of economic
entrepreneurship we call “sex work.” On the contrary, if we allow ourselves to
peel back the layers of social stigma concerning sex work, it becomes
ineluctably clear that immense differences exist within the issue and that
taking a narrow, one-eyed approach isn’t at all fair here.
But before you gasp in horror at my assumed lack of concern
for the untold legions of sexually exploited women, children and, yes, men
who’ve fallen victim to predatory pimps, clients and law enforcement
institutions, let me employ a ham-handed analogy to render my meaning transparent:
An apple isn’t a pork chop. Just because both are edible and provide an array
of vital nutrients, they’re fundamentally different in meaning, substance and
method of acquisition. Aside from providing vastly differing sets of nutrients,
apples grow on trees - relatively benignly. Pork chops, on the other hand,
depend wholly upon the slaughter of one of our closest related species in order
to appear on the menu.
Similarly, in the arena of sex work, I stand firmly in condemnation
of the pimps, human traffickers, sundry related predators who prey upon and
objectify the weak. The poor. The disenfranchised. The destitute. The powerless.
The beleaguered women, men and children who are compelled into sex work and held
in its grasp by violence, corruption, predation and substance abuse.
On the other hand…
If living an empowered life is about anything at all, it’s
about being able to make informed, empowered adult choices about our lives and
our bodies. It’s about staying in touch with our holistic selves. So long
as we do no harm to others, it’s about gathering all pertinent information
at our disposal, thinking critically in weighing our options, and acting
ethically and humanely in operationalizing our choices. It’s about taking
responsibility for what we do, protecting ourselves and others in the world
community and finally, leveraging our creativity, intellect, flexibility, power
and agency in the most responsible ways we know how.
Regular readers of this blog know quite well how firmly I argue for the vital importance of self-determining and reinforcing our positive, ever-evolving relationship with our sexual selves. From that perspective, adults who engage in sex work of their own volition – that is, un-coerced by outside parties are making a conscious choice as valid as any other, so long as the activity does not involve the exploitation, coercion, or victimization of others.
I’ve sometimes spoken with groups wherein courageous
participants reveal past (or present) engagement in some form of sex work. From
providing phone sex for money to providing “lap” dances - gyrating their bodies
against the laps of seated clients in strip clubs and the like for cash - to
working as escorts, dominatrixes, or in prostitution, for many working alone, that is, without
the so-called “protection” of a pimp or madam, sex work provided a way to pay
for college or support their children while setting their own work hours, and
retaining their total earnings. Beholden to no one, these women and yes, some
men, saw themselves as creative, smart, empowered entrepreneurs ethically and carefully
providing their clients with services that are perpetually in high demand.
Is sex work for everyone? Clearly, of course not, no more
than every person who’ll bite into an apple and
enjoy it will also like pork chops equally well. The textures are
different. The tastes, the aromas. Not to mention the pathways they must take from
their natural states to our plates. And as far as the sources of coercion are
concerned, it’s not just the predatory loathsome – the pimps, pedophiles, human
traffickers and their ilk – who force
people, who would otherwise not do so, into selling sex. And surely, the
obvious needs highlighting here as well: Poverty itself is a pimp like no
other, coercing and exacting its pound of flesh with venomous precision.
But let’s not be disingenuous in this. Setting aside the
notion that people only engage in sex
work because it’s the only source of
income they can find, there are lots of intelligent, insightful, self-determining,
attractive people who proactively and responsibly choose to engage in sex work
for a wide variety of reasons, including but not limited to, its lucrative
potential.
It’s hardly a new phenomenon either. We know from the
historical record that ancient civilizations around the planet boasted
brothels. Back then, entrepreneurial older women, whose paid occupation it
was to sexually educate young men, were held in lofty esteem.
Even now, in the few progressive locales where sex work has
been decriminalized, the women and men who work in the trade have finally garnered some of the
protections of law and access to necessary health care.
At the end of the day, there’s power in self-direction; there are agency and freedom in having the ability to make our own choices. Despite the
ongoing air of social stigma, the reality is that more than a few folks as well have used the proceeds from sex work to fund master’s degrees and
Ph.Ds. To start other, more “mainstream” businesses. Pay off mortgages. Buy
health care!
In spite of all that, of course there are many who argue
that sex work always demeans the sex
worker. That regardless of the circumstances, it renders her/him powerless.
Objectified. A social pariah. A pawn.
But in a culture such as ours, wherein financial wealth is
routinely conflated with power and control, the counter-argument of course, is
that it’s the buyer of sex who surrenders control, since he - or she - is the one in the exchange who blithely surrenders the
cash.
Hmmm...
Hmmm...
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