Thursday, July 30, 2015

Oral Sex: So What Do You Think? So What Do You Do?



As readers who drop in here regularly know, one of the last things I’m prone to do is advocate for specific sex acts of any particular kind. And as far as I’m concerned, this is as it should be; since the central purpose of my writing here is, for the most part, to inform, uphold and enlighten – to offer new and engaging perspectives on the breath-taking wonderment that is our universe-driven sexuality. Decisions about which actual sexual behaviors we choose to engage in are intensely personal and situated within each person’s constellation of likes and dislikes; they are choices shaped by desire, which in turn is shaped by a multitude of factors including how we were raised, how sexually open and adventurous we are, and of course, our mind/body responses to what heats us up and curls our toes.

With all that in mind, if I’m advocating for anything at all, if I’m standing up on my soap box and waxing philosophical, it’s for each of us, as consenting adults, to claim with both hands our right to be sexually empowered and fulfilled. To know what we like and to own our right to have it, so long as our sexual freedoms don’t impinge on the rights and agency of others. If I’d stake my credentials on anything at all, it would be on the need for us all to take charge of our own sexuality and to leverage its radiant power - especially for women - as a source of energy, strength and renewal, so long as we do it in ways that hold sacred each other’s humanity, as well as our own.