tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5345241232385346376.post3511183467823369704..comments2022-03-18T05:43:29.952-04:00Comments on G'HAN RUTH SINGH: Rape: Surviving It and the Myth of Body BetrayalG'han Ruth Singhhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00182893518350725528noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5345241232385346376.post-51440541238422725992014-01-30T01:36:44.326-05:002014-01-30T01:36:44.326-05:00Me being a man will not say that I understand how ...Me being a man will not say that I understand how a women may feel during or after a rape. But I do have a few female friends who have mentioned that they have been raped. None of them ever appeared to think it was okay, they gave me the impression that they were not expecting this to happen to them. Two young ladies were raped by their x boyfriends. When they told me that I just listened and did not ask any questions. I did not know what to say to them, but I admired them for being able to keep going after their ordeal. One of the women was able to forgive their rapist x boyfriend and not file charges against him. He also is the father of her two children. I think people have changed a little about what is rape or consent, and back in the day it was probably more rape than consent. This is an area I don't have much knowledge about. E.Sinclairhttp://aol.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5345241232385346376.post-73749849798042682592013-12-18T18:39:19.949-05:002013-12-18T18:39:19.949-05:00While browsing around survivor sites (as they give...While browsing around survivor sites (as they give me comfort and abstraction from my childhood) I happened upon this post. <br /><br />Reading the title “Surviving It: Rape and the Myth of Body Betrayal” I became infuriated. <br /><br />Is this correct? Is an educated woman daring to imply that the natural, biological and thankfully semi-involuntary reaction of the human body to stimuli is a myth? <br /><br />A little background: I am man in my early 40’s. I am also the physically mature (excluding my psychological development, for obvious reasons) result of many coerced, childhood sexual interactions with Female, male, family, friends, adults, peers, etc.. Most of which I found to be very physically pleasurable. <br /><br />Obviously, my physical reaction to the stimuli was exactly the same regardless of whether I found the situation pleasurable, non-pleasurable, terrifying or horribly traumatic. Of course, the end result (usually an orgasm) was dependent on the intent of the abuser. Fortunately, most of my abusers were intent on pleasure… either mine or theirs. <br /><br />Back to your blog: I was prepared to read that lubrication and even orgasm during rape were clear indications of latent, sexually-submissive desire. Oh, was I ready to write a hateful response. <br /><br />I quickly discovered that your frustration was over the self-loathing and shame that women feel as a result of their natural biological functions. As through it was a subconscious awareness of some repressed desire. I stand corrected! <br /><br />You imply that it’s a defense mechanism; I tend to “think” that (not being a woman) the reaction is simply the reaction to stimuli and that the result (although beneficial, given the situation) is ancillary.<br /><br />Regardless, I applaud you for both the blog and your obviously heart-felt desire to help women understand their body's reaction and forgive themselves for something that never warranted self-judgment in the first place…. A very well written blog…<br /><br />Sincerely, <br /><br />James <br /><br />Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15999563346242861172noreply@blogger.com